Remaining positive within a negative environment.

Your Way...

"How do you remain positive when everyone around you seems so negative?" Somebody had ask me and so I responded:

This depends totally on ones individual state of being. Most people have a concept of 'being positive' and so they try this to live and for sure they will have difficulties with all the negativity around. What you are asking is what kind of manipulation one can use, right? Then I must ask back: Are you really positive or is it part of your self image that you are trying to live. Like the image of 'being open' and in reality there is no openness, only for that what is already part of your 'property'. But your question is directed to me when you are asking: How do *you* remain positive...

My Way...

So I will talk about how I can stay positive without any kind of manipulation like forcing myself or suppressing any negative reaction. I don't need to do this because *I am positive*, that means my attitude does not come from any belief system that has given me a concept to follow. My positive attitude is the result coming out of my learning, growing and healing process and that includes the knowledge and acceptance of *reality* how I encounter it in my daily life. If it should happen that I have a negative reaction, - indeed it still happens -, then by observing this and being conscious about it, then I also can be aware why the reality I am encountering can provoke me and I will see that there is a reaction because the reality does not complete my expectation how I want things to be. That would mean, that I am still programmed from a concept. Being aware of this program, I can make a decision and keep or drop it and then I can understand the situation or this person who had provoked my reaction much better, not giving the fault for my negative reaction to the outside. I can release this person and I will soon be back to myself and 'remain' with my positive state of being.

Energy

An essential aspect that is connected with seeing things positive or negative, is that every alive being is representing *energy*. This is not visible, at least not in the usual way that deals mostly just with superficial aspects. People and animals, even plants, are representing and receiving this force. They all are reacting to it, although mostly not consciously. A good example gives Cesar Millan "The Dog Whisperer" when he is working with bad behaviour of dogs. It is clear that dogs don't understand words, they just receive the energy and then are responding. So Cesar not only educates the dogs, he helps the owner of dogs to change their *energy* and then it happens that the dog changes the 'bad behaviour'. It is incredible and one really can learn a lot from this. I suggest that you watch videos about it at YouTube.

Appearance has various levels!

Once we have understood this and we are aware of our *energy*, then we also might be aware that we are reacting to other peoples energy and not just to their expression with words or how they behave.
Then we might understand, that when people provoke us with their negativity and we are reacting, then because we have the same energy within ourselves that is responding, even though we have suppressed this and covered with our 'carpet of positive concepts'.
Once we have done the step and are able to look through this 'game' we are playing with ourselves and with others, then we can start to relate to situations and people in a different way and we can respond from a different position...

Then not reacting to the negative energy of our surrounding, we can 'beam' our positive energy to others and this will have a healing effect, because we can freely give and don't need to defend our position to 'remain' in a desired positive attitude.

Positive results are ahead to come...

The initial question is good and will bring up more questions because this is a very complex subject and includes all our existence and our development as humans. And as nearly all have to deal with the dilemma between the discrepancy of their own concepts and the daily reality, so people are all under stress and are suffering because things and people are seldom like we want it to be and so there are all those negative reactions all around. So every body should be motivated to look at it and question the conditions. But sadly this is not the case. Most people are stuck in their evolution as human beings, because they are identified with their personality and their established concepts and their self image. It seems that only dramatic happenings or a lot of suffering can open the individual to ask questions, - with the possibility to go beyond this state, that mostly has destructive and negative results.There are opening spaces like this here at HubPages and we can use these to find information about our conditions and their background to be able to deal in a creative way with ourselves and our problems, - to free ourselves and to go beyond our limitations...

So I suggest that we use this space the most creative way possible and that is to ask questions and then we can work on it and together we can find answers. OK?

BeiYin