Why any change is so difficult?
71What is it we are defending? Our toys? Our properties? Our established self image? Our world view? Our concepts? Our beliefs?
Any kind of system is defending itself!
It is part of human nature to resist any change. This is not only the case with humans, every system, from the single cell to the biggest 'body', like companies, organisations and even states. They all are defending themselves in their established structure against influences that might cause some change. That makes real openness, understanding, growing and even evolution so difficult as there is always an inbuilt resistance.
If we as humans, because we are capable for this, have experienced our 'human nature' by observing ourselves and we come to the understanding that this is a natural part of us, then we are capable to be aware of our defence mechanism and then we can use our willpower to overcome obstacles, outside and inside, that holds us back to go beyond ourselves, - to find new horizons in our world view and about ourselves. We can overcome the usual behaviour to ignore or to reject even the simplest information if it doesn't fit into our already established pictures: of ourselves, our world view, attitudes, habits and every thing we have stored in our concepts.
Nearly all my writings are going around this topic... And I am not too much surprised that there are hardly any responses to my hubs and questions here, because my intention is to inspire and provoke people to look at themselves to find the real reason why they are not happy and content - then not giving any more the fault for their disappointment to the outside and other people. That would need a change and so people resist and ignore my hubs...
It is difficult for me to find a more efficient place or to write in a different way. Any response would help to find out about it. Tell me what you think! I am convinced that 'self expression' is very important, - because then we can be critical and find out why we write or say what it really means. For example that we are seeking 'self confirmation' and so often are depending in our well being from our surrounding. Then we could do something about it and maybe change our attitude and not just getting angry about situations, conditions and people...
There is a lot of work to do and all has to do with 'self knowledge'... Tell me, if you understand my intention - or that I better should shut up!
BeiYin
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No, you should not shut up. It is very important to write about these things. Life after all is only worth the name if it reflects reality, but you know very well that habits are extremely hard to get rid of. Intense desire for change must be felt. This can only come after a genuine need is felt in the deepest recesses of ones heart. Self-knowledge is not a matter to be taken lightly, and only those who have questioned their own existence are ready for it. I even doubt that, for Self-knowledge entails the elimination of the ego or personal self and we all want to continue Right? To be a nobody, a conscious nothing is not a goal most people aspire to. Everyone longs to be, to survive above all else. To have nothing, to be nothing is terrifying and so we cling onto our sense of identity. We are afraid of the unknown, and who we are in reality means venturing into the void. To be aware of your being is bliss, yet this is a concept only. The mind needs tangibles in order for it to act. It needs to know that the risk of losing oneself is worth taking. Keep writing BeiYin. There is no more important or urgent work than the discovery of who we are in reality as opposed to what we imagine ourselves to be.
Thank you GNelson and Ashmi for your comment. You give me motivation to continue writing here. I thought that maybe nobody is interested as there have been no comments at all. Anyway, I am used to call into the open space... If there comes an echo, that's good, if not, this might not be important. What I want and see as necessary, is that a certain energy and information is expressed and put into the space. Who is looking for it, - will find it! We need to know, that we are not alone and that one day... we will come together!
BeiYin
What you talk about BeiYin is not easy to grasp because of the deep grooves already set by habit. Nor is it in societies interest that people think for themselves. The establishment has a plan for you as long as you do not have one for yourself. As you say, only those who are seeking have any chance of finding. But for the most part we go round in circles, lost in confusion and despair for lack of sincerity in respect to our true motives. Most of us expect a return for our efforts. We are always on the lookout for profit or pleasure. Self-knowledge has always been disclosed only to the few who were ready for it, it has never meant for the masses. The sacrifices necessary are too painful to conceive. It is as it should be, as in the end all are destined to know the truth, eventually.
Ashmi, I see you understand the dilemma. More than fifty years ago I received an 'answer' with the pretty clear picture of my mission. I followed this vision and part of it was that I created the place FalconBlanco here on the Ibiza island. With the idea that people could live together with the intention to find their own 'way of life', not depending on the given goals of this society. For example: Not doing anything for money: http://hubpages.com/hub/Living-without-doing-anyth
Not depending on the established health system: http://hubpages.com/hub/real_healing
And more how it is described at: http://hubpages.com/hub/Group-of-Friends-FalconBla
The place is established since thirty years and has living space and resources for more than twenty people, but in all those years it was not possible to find people with the same intention and interests. Yes, some times there have been about twenty people living here, but mostly short time visitors or like last year people who used the place for their personal survival needs, but not interested in their growing or awareness. Apart of this they nearly all were smoking, drinking and using drugs, although this is against the given rules. They even didn't work to maintain the place. So I had to tell them to look for another place. It needed nearly one year before they all had left. Now I am alone only with my partner and we are trying to clean up the mess that was left by those people. But we have plenty of work to maintain the place with all the animals and plants and I am also writing a lot with the intention to find people. Without any result. There is hardly any response and I really don't know what else to do.
I don't want to give up, but it looks like there is no other choice... The reason is the difficulty I wrote in this hub and also what you are describing.
BeiYin
It must have been very unpleasant for you. I'm sorry to hear your intention has not come to fruition. I'm not sure why as I don't know the details, but from what I have read about Falconblanco, there does not seem to be any structure in place. You talk about people taking responsibility for themselves, for them to grow in awareness, to take note of their reactions etc. These things must be learnt, either by following an example or through deep meditation and self-inquiry; which again is very difficult without a teacher of some kind. There must be some kind of support system in place as well as a concrete understanding of what the intention is. This I imagine is your role?
At the moment people are dominated by their minds. They are tortured by thoughts. Fears and desires have a vice grip on them and they are bewildered as to what to do. They are like children and cannot be left to their own devices to sort out these perceived problems as they do not know what is going on, or what it is all about. All they know is that they are in pain, frustrated with themselves but probably blaming society etc. They seek peace and happiness like everyone else, only the means differ. They are looking for a way out but do not realise that the way out is within. For lack of knowledge and method they grope in the dark, causing havoc and grief wherever they go. They are not to blame. You cannot blame a child for acting out its immaturity.I can't believe that you do not enlighten them as to where they are going wrong. I'm sure you do. Anyway, I do not have experience of communities of any sort so my opinion is not valid. All I know is that it takes time for people to understand these topics. I reapeat, it is not easy to be without desires or fears but the correct methods must be understood fully. To die to every moment is the hardest of endeavours for what you are doing is killing the old self to make way for the new.......I wish you the best in future. Don't be too hard on yourself, keep smiling and enjoy the show.
Excelent
Ashmi, I have written a new hub as a comment to the above. Please contact me, I could not find a way to write to you... The new hub is at:
I have only just read your reply. The hubpage does not exist.
Ashmi, I have integrated this reply into my other hub at:
http://hubpages.com/hub/Group-of-Friends-FalconBla
then I have deleted the hub about 'Reality at FalconBlanco'
GNelson Level 5 Commenter 2 years ago
Keep writing. You are on to something!