Is Ego necessary in Life?

Question: Is Ego necessary in life?
BeiYin: There are many questions and answers about this and I wonder: What are all these people talking about? It doesn't seem that any of them really knows what *ego* is. So then how can they know why EGO might be necessary? And then: Does any body knows what *life* is?
I will make a statement: Even though 'Ego' and 'personality' seem to be so real, these are just an illusions in transition, before the individual finds out and goes into *real being*.
Question: How can you say that personality is an illusion! Isn't personality the most precious we posses? That's what we are, that's what we are striving for, to make ourselves and that is our 'personality' richer, better, wiser and wider. We can be proud of it and it makes us unique and different from every body and every thing else around us.
BeiYin: Exactly! That's how a personality's self image looks like. But at the same time isn't it absurd and ridiculous to ask about something that is unknown within this self image and ask people who doesn't know, because they are living in the same big cloud that is built up by our society? The questions and the answers are flying through the 'Internet space' like soap bubbles, looking beautiful and vibrant, going up into the height, above mist and clouds, - but coming down and touching earth, - they just disappear...
Question: Then why people are asking?
BeiYin: One can be very occupied with oneself, look at oneself, search and ask, giving it all importance possible, by being identified with all content one has grabbed from where ever it came from and with this has been blowing up the bubble one might call *EGO* or *personality* and then turning around it as if this is the 'Center of the Universe' and it has indeed become the center. But a 'bubble' has no center, it is just empty! Who comes to this realization? Nobody here in this Cyberspace! Because this would be the end of the asker and all the answers, - coming down... Asking those question might be a kind of entertainment that fills some void...
Question: Yes, but then, when this soap bubble disappears, what is left? You say then we are coming down. Coming down to what?
BeiYin: To the ground, to the earth, to the *now*, to *this moment*, to the awareness of ones *existence*, - that indeed doesn't need any name to contain sense and meaning.
Question: Can those people who are so intense going into discussion come to this state of being?
BeiYin: Yes! But not as long they fill the moment and space with their soap bubbles.
Question: Then how?
BeiYin: This would be an essential question and finding the answer by *being the answer*. This has to happen in ones utmost personal space, apart from glamorous places like an Internet forum, - in silence and contemplation. A basic step would be diluting and dissolving of the stress that is accumulated in ones personality, when living in a society that supports and confirms the established fake reality. -
The answer can be found by realizing that it doesn't exist! 'Ego' and personality are illusions.
Question: How did it happen that we got caught into this illusion?
BeiYin: 'Personality' starts when consciousness is developed enough that the individual is aware of oneself and this starts with the development of senses and their reception, then causing reactions of the system, realized as body sensations, emotions and thoughts. In this phase there exist no observer separated from the observed, the consciousness consist only through reactions within the system and - there is a total identification with it. Reactions are felt as "oneself" and later when there happens a separation from the outside world, then there appears the awareness of "I". Out of this the individual gains the feeling of existence, being limited to body sensations, emotions and thoughts - that are forming then one's 'personality'.
Comment: Yes I see this in daily life, our energies attract each other and this forms the personality between us, we do alter our personalities to suite the energy we are receiving or give.
BeiYin: It seems pretty much that it is not clear at all what 'personality' means. Indeed there is little information available and the present knowledge stays at a pretty superficial level. Searching in Wikipedia gives a poor result. Sigmund Freud has written something about it, but that seems limited and is hard to understand... I will try to give a picture that can easily be recognized: Personality is what we know we are: First all the characteristics that makes us unique among others: Our name and all the other personal information we find in our passport. Then all that information that is stored in our 'data base', that's our brain, right? From the moment on when we appeared on this earthen plan. That is mainly the information how the existing system reacts to influences coming from the outside. These influences might have caused reactions of joy or such as fear and pain. These first experiences had established a pattern and this became a characteristic of our personality. Then all what we learned through education became part of our personality, already filtered and colored through the already existing condition as stored in our system, although we are not being conscious about it because these programs are working from the background. From there we are reacting to what shows up in daily life and that is so specific due to our stored personal program. Our personality is built out of all what we 'own'. All the property we have gathered on all levels. Our body condition, healthy or sick, - our muscles well developed or weak, - our emotional state and the way we react, - our mental properties with all what we know, - all our beliefs and all the concepts we have built up, included all those that are part of the common pool. All is part of our personality because we are identified with all this. We are the owner and the identification with our property gives us the feeling of existence. That is mostly pretty much blown up, but that's all. It's like a substitute for something real and so the substitute doesn't allow to experience the real. It is like the 'spiritual experience' one might feel when taking drugs, then this will not make it possible to realize it in ones daily life as ones growing. It is like when not being able to see the forest because of too many trees... Is it now clear what 'personality' is?
Question: Yes, I think so. There is probably more what we are! There are parts of ourselves we don't know yet. How can we get to know these parts or better said: Be this yet unknown parts? Is there a way to help with this in an harmonious and peaceful way, I mean so that it goes together with my most essential longing and my needs?
BeiYin: Yes, when you know the personality that you are and you have explored yourself and you have questioned yourself, then you will come to a point, where it seems that you can't go further and that is because being identified with ones EGO, the awareness is limited to it and there is no way to go beyond this limitation until the ability arises to observe oneself through the mirror that is provided by life and its daily conditions, situations and happenings. Relating to what shows up and responding in a conscious way, will bring the awareness of ones reactions and so clear up ones unconscious background, allowing to see more clear and being able to distinguish what is real and what is an interpretation coming from ones 'ego', that is ones programmed personal background structure.
Question: How can I do this? How can I go 'beyond my personality' when I am so much limited to this 'personality' in my awareness?
BeiYin: That's a good question and indeed, it is worth to find out more about it! Go to the source, there you will find information about it.
Question: What means 'source'? How can I go there?
BeiYin: You can practice a simple exercise, so that your 'personality' gets out of the constant stress condition, coming from the need to defend itself against a world that seems to put so many obstacles and negative influences. Then you will be able that the permanent defense attitude of your personality will soften and you will be able to *receive*. Your awareness will rise and the door of intuition will open and that will allow the conscious connection with the 'source'.
Question: What exercise is this and where can I learn it?
BeiYin: This exercise is called 'StressReleaseExercise' and you can learn it by going to my Web page or watch my video. With the given information you can just do it and if there is any question about it, you can ask, - you know where to find me...

Comment: Many spiritual writers believe this "Source" you refer to is who we are on a deeper sense than our personality.
BeiYin: Indeed, many 'spiritual' writers help to keep this split going with their theories, that gives people the food to identify with their high pitched theory of a 'higher self', living in the 'here and now', being 'love and harmony' and so on... So then people feel comfortable and happy, being occupied with their fake reality. It allows them to live their personality, not touching it, to maybe transform it, and at the same time living their split reality with their beliefs and theories, that gives them a 'deeper sense'. Identification with ones mind and those established concepts and theories makes these 'real' and strong also being supported and fed
by ones emotions. All this is part of the personality games, well established in our society.
Question: If this is the case, do you have any theories on why we are split up into separate entities - is it as some theorize, that we are the means by which the Universe becomes conscious of itself?
BeiYin: We are separated, because we have created this split and so we live this 'fake reality', but in reality there is no split, because we are the universe, like the atoms are energy, molecules are atoms and matter is built from molecules, so matter is energy, even though we can't see and live this. It seems to be the top and highest identification possible, making the universe dependent on us to be conscious of itself! I wonder how much more personalities can blow up? But we don't need to worry too much about it, our fake reality is just a step in our evolution and will not last, even though we are pretty much stuck in it, but taking about it and finding out about our situation and condition, might be the first step to get out of it...

That's why we are here, right?

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